“Oh come on. You look miserable. Give it up and put an end to the misery” the friendly advice came from a stranger. He got me smiling and thinking!
A six letter word for a Red fruit. I’ve been killing time playing word search and I pop that screen from time to time to vent out the pressures and stress of the day. Most of it was a breeze to cruise through and then I hit a blocker. I refused to seek a ‘Hint’ to solve the puzzle. I sat on the word, or rather the lack of the word for a few days. I was in the elevator when a stranger peeked into the screen and glanced at my misery ridden face. He taunted my choice to stay that way. Giving up made more sense to him. I couldn’t give up. I wouldn’t , not yet.
Speaking of mobile games and life, the games seldom matter. Life , on the other hand, matters plenty. Similar to the silly trivial game of word trivia, life poses many challenges. Some , we coast through without a hitch. Some we struggle but manage to find a solution and power on. Some, they test us. We feel stuck without a solution at hand. We refuse, out of principles and convoluted reasoning, to seek help. We embrace that inertia of inactivity and learn to live with misery at first and soon evolve to dwell in that. Misery becomes a part of life. At all times, there are choices waiting to be made. We refuse the choices. Giving up is one such choice. Asking for help is another. Cheating our way through resolution is another. Quitting is another. The choices are abundant and our reluctance to make them is quite apparent.
What is life without the many challenges. The pretenders usually cite that challenges maketh the bloke. That’s fancy talk for they haven’t been through a challenge that had rendered them useless. Challenge is a way of life, cite the wise. That’s fancy for the inevitability of failure and crushing difficulties that one has to face. Never give up, the champions sing. It sounds miserably optimistic when we are at our pessimistic best. The commonality is that all of us have our challenges in front of us. What we do with them, goes on to determine the life that we stand to live.
In the context of a game, the challenge is a bitter sweet wait. It brushes the ego, it taunts our ignorance. It pushes us to excel and overcome. The gamification offers the right motive to overcome it. There is the bragging right to overcoming the hurdle. The pointless, meaningless likes of a million strangers keeps us going and going strong.
In the context of life, there are no awards, there are no badges, there are no ‘TA DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA’ moments to the many victories and many failures that we experience. Lead a lucky enough life, one would have a few friends to share those moments. Lead a deluded life, one would have a thousand strangers to comment on the events published in the social stream. The subtle magnificence of life is that the only big motivation that we have to solving any challenge is the satisfaction of overcoming it. The biggest fear that we fester is the fear of failure of overcoming it. Rest are ego satisfiers at best.
The mind wanders towards perceived repercussions. We assume the worst and hence fear the worst. The reality isn’t either rosy red or blackish black as we want it to be. It rests somewhere in between. While gamification helps us realise the significance of the game and it’s place in our life to assess the worth of success and the failure, real life doesn’t offer that yard stick. We either fail, or we succeed and we go with the ‘Flow of things’. We seldom do sit back and pause to ponder about the meaning of our successes and failures and what they really mean to our lives.
A classic wonderful example is the success at work. A fantastic delivery. While it holds its value in gold in the context of the business, what do we stand to gain from it in the context of life? A failure at work is a failure for us as a professional. Does it translate to a failure as a human? Why aren’t we comfortable in separating the lines that blur our lives? Wisdom is the ability to call out the significance of such victories and failures. Wisdom is the ability to translate them into what it means for us, as people and as professionals.
On that note, the word was Pitaya! of course , I cheated 🙂 I learnt a bit about resilience in the process. I don’t give up because I hate to give up.